As we cruise into May, we celebrate Mother’s Day. We refer to my mom, now 83, as the bionic women. In the last decade, she has had both her knees and hips replaced. Throughout it all, including a misdiagnosis and severe pain she carried on, did the laundry, cleaned the house and kept on moving.
I often feel women have been underestimated throughout history. We all know about such trailblazers as; Amelia Earhart, Margaret Thatcher and Mother Theresa but what about the millions of silent mothers and wives who work tirelessly behind the scenes for their families. This year, two of my dear friends were diagnosed with cancer. These women are warriors, bravely fighting every day. As I speak with their husbands and children I feel their pain as they try to give comfort to those who have comforted them over the years. You suddenly realize how hard it is to be the rock to the one’s who have always been your rock. It’s like Eleanor Roosevelt once said, ” A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.”
My mother not only made our house a home, she instilled values and was an advocate for our education when my father didn’t feel it was necessary. I recently watched a touching interview about Raymond Floyd’s career during the Masters Championship. A great deal of the focus was about his late wife, Maria Floyd and her impact on his life. He spoke about how strong she was and how she would challenge him when his game needed improvement. On one such occasion he recalled a heated fight with his wife while they were driving to a tournament that resulted in the car being pulled over. A good women should push and challenge her husband to face things he may not want to face. I recall many fights in my own house when my Mom would come up against my Father’s ego and you never knew who would win. She would always advise us to, “Pick our battles wisely.”
There has been a lot of talk lately about putting a woman on our currency. The three final candidates to replace Andrew Jackson on the $20 bill are, Rosa Parks, Eleanor Roosevelt Harriet Tubman and Wilma Mankiller. I can’t help but wonder, what has taken so long? It’s about time women get some recognition for their contributions, maybe we should be on the $100 note instead.
Women are the unsung heroes, they teach us how to nurture and take care of ourselves physically, emotionally and spiritually. Mother’s teach us how to give comfort, to be accepting when all hope is lost and to love ourselves when no one else possibly could. As we get older, we never outgrow the need for someone to hug us, tell us how special we are and let us know tomorrow is a new day.
As we celebrate Mom’s Day, spend some quality time with your Mother or other strong women in your life. Like many of you my Mom doesn’t need any more trinkets, but she did ask if I could come home and spend some time with her. How many more Mother’s Days will I get to enjoy that treasure?
Happy Mother’s Day!
Jodi Cross is a marketing consultant, speaker and freelance writer and may be reached at jcross@crossnm.com or on Facebook or Twitter at jcrosstalk.